10 Ways I am Combatting My Own Cynicism

Cynicism. It sneaks in when we’re exhausted, overwhelmed, and running on empty. As physicians, we see so much—pain, injustice, frustration with a broken healthcare system. Over time, if we’re not careful, cynicism can become a default state rather than a passing emotion.

I know, because I’ve been there. And lately, I’ve felt it creeping back in.

So, I’ve been working on intentional ways to combat cynicism—not by pretending things are fine, but by actively shifting my mindset and habits so I can show up in my life with more clarity and purpose. Here’s what’s been helping me:

1. Take Breaks (Even from the News)

I used to listen to the news on my drive to work every day, but lately, I’ve realized that sometimes, I need silence instead. It’s not about ignoring what’s happening—it’s about choosing when and how I engage with it.

2. Focus on the Fundamentals

Burnout thrives when we’re exhausted, hungry, and dehydrated. Sleep, nutritious food, and water are not luxuries—they are non-negotiables.

3. Connect with Loved Ones

Spending time with people who genuinely care about us—without distractions—grounds us. Whether it’s a phone call, a coffee date, or a long walk, human connection matters.

4. Seek Fun, Delight, and Awe

Aerial yoga has been my recent experiment with joy. It’s uncomfortable, weird, and completely delightful. What’s something small or big that brings you joy? Do more of that.

5. Sit in Your Value

You are a good physician. You are a good human. You don’t need to prove your worth—it’s already there. One simple practice? When someone thanks you, pause, take a breath, and let it in.

6. Be Clear on Your Core Values

Knowing what truly matters to you helps guide decisions, especially in times of uncertainty. Write them down. Refer back to them often.

7. Find Safe Spaces

You don’t have to process everything alone. Whether it’s a close friend, a therapist, or a supportive community like Unbound, safe spaces are essential.

8. Be Kind to Yourself

Cynicism often comes with self-judgment—"Why am I feeling this way?" Instead, try self-compassion: "Of course, I feel this way. And I’m going to take care of myself through it."

9. Pay Attention to Your Energy Levels

What drains you? What replenishes you? Honor your needs and adjust accordingly.

10. Be Kind to Someone Else

A small act of kindness—bringing a colleague coffee, holding the door, sending a quick message of encouragement—can shift our perspective more than we realize.

Your Turn

What’s one small step you can take today to shift out of cynicism and back into a place of intention and care?

If you’re a woman physician looking for a space to reconnect with yourself, Unbound: Women Physicians Reclaiming Their Lives starts March 2nd. This 12-week program is about real change—letting go of burnout patterns, perfectionism, and people-pleasing so you can reclaim your life. Learn more here.

And no matter what—please be kind to yourself. You deserve it. 💛